Listening (James 1:19): Meaning, Reflection and Prayer

What does “Listening” mean in James 1:19?

James gives three short instructions: be swift to hear, slow to speak, and slow to wrath. Together they describe a person who is calm, attentive, and thoughtful.

Going deeper

Most of us prefer the reverse. We are quick to speak, quick to defend ourselves, and quick to get angry. James suggests that we practice the opposite. Listening well is one of the most loving things we can do. It tells the other person that they matter and that we care about what they are saying, not only about what we want to say next.

The order matters too. When we listen first, we understand better, and our words are more likely to be wise. It also slows our anger, since many quarrels come from misunderstanding. In your next important conversation, try a simple experiment. Ask one more question before you offer your opinion, and wait until the other person has finished before you respond. Listening is a skill that can be learned, and it will strengthen every relationship you have. Try to listen not only to the words but to what sits behind them, the worry or hope that the person may find hard to say.